Magazine: The dos and don’ts of dating

First and foremost one has to end their previous relationship in a positive fashion. Why is this important? Because we are likely to project anger or guilt onto the next relationship, and also because if we end it in a negative way, we will attract those people who feel the same way – angry or guilty. Another very important success factor is being open to potential new partners. We have to specify what are those characteristics and values which are really important for us, which are those in which we would be willing to make compromises and which ones are less important for us. A good example of this is the case of an engineer called Gábor (29) and a doctor called Veronika (32), two conservative people who found one another attractive. In fact, Veronika is so conservative that her being 3 years older prevented her from marrying Gábor. Well, she left him and didn’t find anybody else as good in the last 1.5 years. Being 3 years older definitely qualifies as something in which she should have made a compromise… Let’s make this clear: from time to time life gives us chances, which we either grab or we don’t. Yes, we need to have a certain amount of experience in life to notice these chances. If we let these chances go, it could well happen that we only realise later that we let the great love of our life go! To make things worse, there are cases when there is no way back, when one already married someone else, had children, etc. You can read more about this in the next issue.